Welcome to the ranks of the Stoics. Last week, you took the first step in dabbling with stoicism. You identified which events in your life were controllable and which were not and you chose to focus on the controllable ones. How did it go? Did you smoothly recover from that angry driver cutting you off? Did you fret for hours after you accidentally set your alarm to PM instead of AM, missing that important meeting?
This article will focus on negative visualization. It’s a powerful technique that Ancient Stoic philosophers used to ward off shame. Here’s how it works.
1. Get inside your fears
Find a time in your day to devote at least 20 minutes to negative visualization. You’ll want a quiet place, free of chatting coworkers and honking horns. Silence or turn off all electronics.
2. Identify one of your greatest fears
You’ve lost your job. Your company files for bankruptcy. You find yourself stark naked when presenting to an executive audience at a high-profile conference. Choose one fear to focus on.
3. Visualize your fear
This is the heart of negative visualization. Close your eyes and imagine your fear actually happening. Does your heart sink when your boss calls you into his office to tell you that your department will be laid off? How does that feel? Most important, how do you recover? Do you respond by spewing negative remarks (you always wanted to tell your boss he reeks of rotten eggs and needs to invest in some heavy-duty deodorant)? Or, will you ramp up your LinkedIn profile and apply for another job? Perhaps this leads to landing your dream job.
Negative visualization, also known as defensive pessimism, is powerful. It forces us to appreciate what we do have today. It also prepares us for potential obstacles that we might face. Most important, it forces us to think how we might prevent obstacles from happening.
In the end, negative visualization lowers our shame. It’s much less risky and equally powerful that parading in your birthday suit around the office. It also increases our self-esteem and gives us more confidence that we can cope with our fears. Indeed, a study published in Social and Personality Psychology Compass found that individuals who practiced defensive pessimism have significantly higher levels of self-esteem compared to others. It’s an effective first step to gaining a new more confident skin (even if, thank goodness, you never need to reveal yourself in the buff).
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